Proud of myself

Last night I arrived home to find water all over the garage and our back storage room. I hopped out of the car, asked Hubby what happened, and grabbed the big push broom and started sweeping water out of the garage. I didn't yell at him, or berate him for what happened. I just got to work helping to clean up the water.

I think I just passed some sort of marriage test. Just a few weeks ago I would have been screaming at him for screwing up, or not getting help, or something. But I am trying to make our marriage a partnership between friends, not combatants, as I tended to do. So I get a gold star for holding my tongue!

By the way, he was replacing the backyard outside faucet that had sprung a leak last summer. When unscrewing the faucet from the copper pipe, the pipe twisted and broke right off. Which is not surprising considering how many places on that pipe there were soldered joints. I think whomever installed that pipe in the first place must not have measured properly as there were at least 5, count that FIVE, soldered joints, and this is a straight pipe, not a bent pipe.

But after two trips to Lowe's, Hubby got what he needed (including a shop vac for future use) and replaced the pipe, replaced the faucet, and now we're back up and running.

Flowers

Hubby sent me flowers earlier this week. He's the best! It's a autumn arrangement with yellow, red, orange and dark burgundy flowers. I took a picture of it but my cell phone isn't cooperating.

Ahhhh.

Regardless

In recent times, I have been questioning myself if I could proceed with my life the way it is if we are never blessed with children. I asked myself if I still wanted to be married if I could never be a mom. Ridiculous thoughts, huh? The things that have crossed my mind lately have been staggering.

Regardless of what may happen in the way of having children, I love my husband and can't imagine my life without him. That's the bottom line. I married my husband with the promise of in good times or bad, in sickness or health, for richer or poorer. Nowhere in our vows was there the promise of children or childless. However, I will love him, be faithful to him and continue our journey together as one, regardless of our parental status.

So as a P.S. to our wedding vows, "With children or without, I'll love you forever till death do us part."

Hubby, I love you!

Thank you!

Thank you to all you great ladies who have offered so much good advice. It means so much to have your support and understanding!

I <3 you all!

Marriage is a wonderful thing

My Hubby's grandma, who is 87 and a widow, has recently begun dating the father of the pastor of the new church. He too is a widower and is in his mid- to late 70s. They are so cute together. They spend time with each other, going to lunch, or for a ride. They even went on a date last Saturday to a funeral of someone they both knew!

I started teasing Grandma that her and Jim need to get married. Oh my. You should have seen the hackles raise on one of her daughters, who was more concerned about Grandma losing her soci.al se.curity check than she was of her happiness. Even tonight when we went over to visit Hubby's aunt and uncle and grandma, the uncle (Grandma's SIL) was concerned about her benefits. I don't think they were too impressed that I came up with a solution to the problem.

They can get married in the church without obtaining a marriage license! Many seniors are doing that these days, especially since the woman would lose her benefits from her late husband. They would be married in the eyes of God, but not the state. I think it would be great for a couple their age to have a second chance at love. I even told Grandma that I would host her bachelorette party and get her "protection" so they wouldn't have to worry about having more kids. She just laughed.

A decision would have to be made as to who would marry them. Her son, who was the pastor of our old church, or Jim's son, who is the pastor of the new church. Of course, they can both preside over the service, and one of her other sons can walk her down the aisle. That would just be too sweet.

What do you think? Get married at their age or just not give love a chance?